I met this one Rap Superstar once in Los Angeles at a party where he was going to perform before he reached super celebrity status.
This was right before the release of his song that would launch him from background noise into full fledged worldwide notoriety. Before he would leave a permanent mark on the rap game.
When I met him, he was wearing plain jeans and a dark colored hoodie. He looked like an average dude – not especially flashy or like a mega rap-star mogul. He wasn’t wearing bling or if he was it wasn’t gaudy. He was nice and polite and we didn’t really have an in depth conversation.
When I was introduced to him I kind of tripped and fell into him. Not one of my smoothest moments.
I was also wearing leg warmers over pink high heels. It was not the 80’s, but I digress.
He performed his song and it was a great show at a smallish club. He was humble when he forgot the lyrics to one of his songs. He loved the crowd and we loved him back.
Fast forward to now, this Rap Superstar has evolved not only into an international superstar, but everything about him has evolved and changed. He doesn’t dress like just a regular dude, wearing a regular plain ol’ hoodie and Nikes. He’s well groomed, styled and has a level of sophistication that people probably would never have imagined he would have.
He’s on ads for huge companies and he can have and do just about anything. He dates women who probably wouldn’t have looked twice at him before his metamorphosis. He does and says outlandish things. And he makes oddles of money.
So, what did I learn from meeting him briefly for a few minutes in a small L.A. nightclub wearing an outfit that in hindsight was a horrible fashion statement?
You Have to Know Who You Are & Who You Want to Become. This guy knew who he was, where he came from and what his strengths were. He also knew who he wanted to be. He rapped about it before it was real. He spoke it into being, much like I did before I got my book deal. He talked the talked, even if he wasn’t fully walking the walk.
And, of course, we are all always changing and evolving but if you’re trying to achieve success or just change your life, you need to know who you want to be. Not just what you want to do, but who you want to become.
You’ve Gotta Believe Your Own Hype. Sure, Freud would probably say that someone who is over-confident is really hiding insecurities and that can be true. But, if you’re not buying what you’re selling then no one else will. You don’t have to be an ego-maniac, but you do need to be secure. You need to believe in yourself and your abilities. You need to believe that you can do and be whatever you want to.
There Will Be Mistakes. Can you imagine how embarrassing it must have been for this Rap Superstar to have forgtten the lyrics to his song? There were other well known artists in the room only a few steps from that stage and this man forgot the words to the song that he wrote! And so it goes, no matter how well you think you know something, we are all human and we will all make mistakes.
Mistakes Are Opportunities for Growth. When Rap Superstar forgot his lyrics instead of trying to play it off, he just coped to it. “Damn, I forgot the lyrics to my own song,” he said. When you make a mistake, it’s usually a good practice to acknowledge it so that you can learn from it.
So, what did Rap Superstar do? He flipped it and started freestylin’ about his shirt and turned a mistake into an opportunity to show us all that he really had mad skills. So, what if he forgot the lyrics when he could make up songs on the spot?
Stay Humble. it seems like when we reach our goals be that to have 100,000 regular blog subscribers or a successful business, or whatever your personal goal is, it can be easy to forget where we come from. We can easily loose sight of who we once were and get caught up in the momentum of our success. There is believing your own hype, which is important, and then there’s just being a total douche. No matter what level of success one makes, it’s important to stay humble or you could loose the folks who got you where you are.
It sounds silly but every time I see him in a an ad I feel a small validation of my own dreams. This was just a guy. A regular guy with a dream that he made happen with hard work and the belief that he could.
Hold fast to your dreams, my lovelies!